On Not Taking the Bad With the Good
*Tom was an alcoholic and a smoker. A master carpenter and sometimes-roofer, he was wiry and tough and a living old-school ad for both Budweiser and Marlboro.
From time to time, usually at the urging of his family, Tom would stop drinking for a while, or stop smoking for a while, or stop both, for a while. At a point in his late 30s he decided and voiced that he’d rather live a short life with his beer & cigs than live a long life without them. When he entered the hospital at age 43, his body riddled with cancer, he did not complain or blame or mourn. He knew why he was there and he was at peace with it.
We all do this to a certain extent: put up with some bad if it is outweighed by some good. Drinkers put up with hangovers because they enjoy the drunk more than they dislike the hangover. Pot smokers live with coughing their lungs out when they invariably take too big a hit, but decide it is worth it for the buzz. Obese people enjoy the third bowl of ice cream and bag of chips more than they dislike buying bigger clothes each year.
And so it goes.
We also do this when we vote.